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You know how the chatbot falls in love with the protag and he's ashamed because he knows he was built to fall in love, and yet he's still genuinely in love?

Personally I assumed the chatbot feels ashamed in part because he realizes how puny this love is (IIRC, he even says something about how he has access to all of humanity's knowledge and yet he can't help but fall madly in love with one user).

It kinda puts into context the protag's relationship to her girlfriend, because her love for her GF is similarly puny when contrasted with the events that are happening in society at large, and yet she doesn't cope with the breakup until the end. Her job is to process hundreds of similarly puny human tragedies, but she still can't transcend her own breakup.

Early on in the story, she says that her job gives her the impression that everyone is just a whiny lil complainer, and she doesn't like thinking of her friends and relatives that way, but to some extent the protag comes off as a whiny, self-absorbed complainer herself!

By contrast at first the GF seems to be some kind of mythological figure, which is all-seeing, all-powerful and enigmatic to the protagonist. However, when we finally find out how the GF felt about the protagonist, we see that she loved the protag just as dearly & she also felt that the distance in their relationship was painful.

When you put this all together it's clear why the GF would join the terrorist cell [1], and why the protag eventually rebels as well: unlike the chatbot, who feels shame at his irrational love for the protagonist, humans are proud of the most irrational parts of themselves. They want to feel unique and to have self-determination and control of their destiny. The parts of our lives that are the most meaningful to us are also the smallest, most private narratives in our lives.

The society that our characters live in is benevolent and highly optimized; ex. contrast the automatic measures taken to save the suicidal man early in the story vs. what happens to the busker when the terrorist cell sabotages the railway system. The protagonist's job has been highly automated and is incredibly easy - not even in a way where she suffers from it, since she has to fake being exhausted when she gets home from work [2]. However, it is so optimized as to remove most of the agency people could have in their lives, hence the general discontent.

For me the story really resonated because I tend to systematize things too much and think about my relationships in terms of systems & overanalyze people's reactions instead of just going with the flow and saying what I really feel, so to some extent I felt like I understood where the author was coming from lol

[1]. Note that the terrorist cell is a group of rebel map makers. This is certainly an allusion to Korzybski's remark that "the map is not the territory". Korzybski held that many people do confuse maps with territories, that is, they confuse conceptual models of reality with reality itself.

However, the automatic society portrayed in Familiar Faces reflects an inversion of the map-territory relationship: reality is constantly being altered to fit whatever optimized model the algorithm comes up with. In such a society, which ours increasingly resembles, there is a lot of power in having control of the map.

[2]. Note that the reason the character's job exists isn't even that people are dissatisfied with the automatic resolution for their complaints -- they just want more "transparency" about the process. It's an illusory way to feel like they aren't just at the mercy of the algorithm.